50 Shades of Hell

Photo from "Kristen Lamb's Blog:"
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I know I haven't written in this blog in forever. I'm maintaining another blog about divorce due to abuse, adultery and (porn) addiction, and I have shared Kristen's blog there as well. But I thought it important to add this to my more pasteurized blog because it's an important subject for today--well, tomorrow, too. . . any day, really.

 

Please take heed.

 

This is one of the best blogs I've read so far about the disgusting movie that is opening on Valentine's Day.

Below are some quotes I loved from this blog post. Okay, so I quoted almost her whole blog post, but this is really good stuff, and so appropriate for my own blog about Abuse, Adultery, Addiction--and how to rise up from the ashes of Abuse, Adultery and (Porn) Addiction.

And I didn't quote everything, of course. You can click on the link above to go and read it for yourself. She is a very clever writer and brings up so many good points about pornography, consent, victimization, and so on. She does not write PC about this subject, which I really like.

Satan's Pandora's Box has been opened by 100 million people who bought the book, 250 million people who viewed the movie trailer, and people who already spent $60 million dollars in tickets before it's even in the theater. This makes me want to cry, really.

My dream is that the women in the theater audiences will get up and walk out. (Is it too much to dream that real men would walk out, too?) It's a dream because women who are addicted to pornography are addicted by reading so-called romance novels. Anti-romance novels should be the moniker.

My fear is seeing these actors and others affiliated with the movie walk up the red carpet and up the stairs to accept an Oscar. Satan's victory complete. I will be throwing up, and not in my mouth.

My soapbox (and my divorce blog) is built upon these sordid subjects and I've been plying Facebook with links to other blogs and articles. Some might say speaking about the book/movie gives it more publicity, but the Edmund Burke quote has been on my mind and I can't be quiet or sit still:
“All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothing.”
Enjoy these thoughts from "Kristen Lamb's Blog" and really think about them.

 

-Nothing says I love you like predatory emotional manipulation, sociopathy, abuse and non-consensual sex acts.

-And yes, I know there have been other kinky books like this, but 50 Shades sold over 100 million copies and the movie (despite ZERO plot) is expected to gross in excess of $60 million which means I just threw up a little in my mouth this “story” has tipped from fringe to mainstream and that scares me more than a little bit.

-Grey doesn’t choose Ana because she is a confident, assured woman who can emotionally handle this sort of contract, um relationship, um abus…ok, hell I got nothing. A confident woman would have told him where to put his private jet.

 

-But women have faced thousands of years of not being able to defend themselves against victimization and rape and now we have a cultural phenomenon that is redefining sex and blurring the lines of consent (which are already pretty damn blurry, especially after a drunken frat party).

 

-It’s Grey’s lines like, “I don’t do romance” that kinda more than piss me off. Women used to be worthy of courtship and eventually a ring and a commitment.

 

-I remember living across from a young couple and the pretty blonde had been living with this jerk guy for EIGHT years. She wanted to be married and he wanted all the benefits of a marriage without any of the legal obligations . . .

-Characters like Ana have opened a WHOLE ‘notha can of worms when she refuses to tell Grey NO or to stop or even that he’s crossing a line and hurting her because “then she’d lose him” *gags* and tolerates the intolerable.

-How in 50 Shades of HELL is this remotely acceptable?