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Saturday, November 14, 2015

26th Anniversary of My Father's Death

Today is the 26th Anniversary of my father's death. 
Henry Joseph Tobelmann, Jr., February 3, 1926-November 14, 1989.
I wrote about it in 2009 when it was the 20th Anniversary of his death. You can read all about it HERE.

This was the last picture taken of my father, out in his back yard by the pond on the golf course.
It was October 1989. He was 63 years old. That's just a little over a year older than I am now.

This was my father's picture and write up in his 1943 yearbook.
He did a lot. He was also voted Best Dancer and Most Likely to Succeed.
                 This is my dad in his Navy uniform.
He served in the Great Lakes camp in Michigan during WWII.

When he got out of the Navy at the end of WWII, he went on to college on the GI bill.
This is my father's graduation picture from Villanova University in about 1949-50.
He got a job at Lukens Steel Company right away. That's where my grandfather worked, too.
He retired early in 1988 after coding from a minor hernia operation.
He took that as an omen, and my parents moved to Palm Coast, Florida. He died in 1989.
I'm glad he had a year and a half of retired life to enjoy.

Friday, November 13, 2015

Friday the 13th

Some trivia about Friday the 13th:
1) Friggatriskaidekaphobia is the fear of Friday the 13th. Almost 20 million Americans have figgatriskaidekaphobia, which is also called paraskavedekatriaphobia. Those who don’t mind
Friday, but fear the number 13, have triskaidekaphobia.
2) Since there’s such a fear of the number 13 among Americans, there are many infrastructures that leave off that number. For instance, many hospitals don’t have room number 13, and there is usually not a 13th floor. In tall buildings, the 13th floor is typically skipped and some airlines don't have a Gate 13.
3) There can be more than one Friday the 13th in a year. In 2015, there were three, which is the most that can occur. There is at least one Friday the 13th per year.
4) Butch Cassidy, Infamous American train and bank robber, was born Friday April 13, 1866.

You're welcome
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Blooming Where I've Been Planted

This rings so true for me. There were times I was so depressed, I felt as if I was sinking in quicksand and I couldn't find any foothold with which to boost myself upward. I felt buried, but not only buried, but that pernicious roots and vines had engulfed me, wrapping around my whole body to keep me in my underground tomb.
In hindsight, I realize it as the refiner's fire taking me to a place I needed to be to realize I didn't want to be there anymore.
Now I am planted in a home 2,000 miles away from where I started, and blooming beautifully.

Saturday, July 4, 2015

What It Means to Me to Be an American

Each year I spend Independence Day feeling a great sense of gratitude to my ancestors, both direct and collateral (uncles, brothers, cousins), who fought in the Revolutionary War, and in the Civil War (both sides), and in WWI, and in WWII, or have been a member of the military during peace time, to uphold our freedom.

I am grateful we have so many freedoms in the United States. Have you read the Constitution or the Bill of Rights? I don't want to see any of those rights taken for granted, or slowly fade away into the sunset as if they aren't relevant anymore.

If you read history, you know, after two hundred years, the initial ideas of new countries, with their ethics, morals and standards, are questioned, tried, and put to unwanted tests. I believe we are on the cusp of that time, if not already crossed the threshold.

If you read history, or scripture, you know how that pans out, and you know what causes the demise.

When we get soft; when we forget what makes us great (humility, gratitude, service); and when man thinks he is better than God, or forsakes God's hand in our lives altogether, the downfall is imminent. Pride takes over when we think it was us, our very limited selves, who deserve all the credit. Pride goeth before a fall. Read the history of any great empire and tell me what you find. Greece. Rome. France. Spain. England. Has America hit that crossroads now? Are we so proud that we forget Who forged this country, and what this country stands for?

In years past, no matter the immigrant, they had hard times to prove themselves when they came to this great land, until the next group of world-weary travelers landed. They, also, had to prove themselves--and could, finding great opportunity here for those who worked hard.

The Puritans, the Catholics, the Huguenots, the Jews; the Germans, the Irish, the Chinese, the Italians--all had to put aside the notion that this country gave them everything--unearned. They had to prove they were worthy of the freedoms they sought. And prove it, they all did.

I am part of the great American melting pot. My ancestors are European--Bohemian, Moravian, Huguenot, Catholic; German, Swiss, Scots-Irish, English, French. Our blood mingled and blended with other blood until they could no longer say "I am German," or "I am English." Those nationalities fought alongside each other in all the wars to end all wars.

One word should describe us all--American. I am an American. I'm not European American. I know a lot of black people who do not consider themselves African-American. They never lived in Africa. They always lived in America, and don't want to be set apart from the nation like that. I am a full-blooded American. I'm not immigrant, or first generation even, still struggling with the English language.

Those who come to America, should take on this pride of country. If you live here, and you have taken the oath of citizenship, you are now an American, striving to do your part to build up this great nation. You are not Mexican-American, Cambodian-American, or Persian-American. If you live here and reap the benefits, you are just plain old American. Your oath is to this country now.

I know there are still more than 50 good people in our nation, that the angels might not destroy us. Tongue-in-cheek, but the time might come, and perhaps already is on the doorstep, when that number will dwindle due to lack of caring or action, or knowledge of history, and those of us who are God-fearing and still love our country and our constitution, will hearken back to what our country initially stood for--life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness; one nation, under God, forged from Judaeo-Christian principles.

Other principles are not like Judaeo-Christian principles. Think about it. It is ridiculous to think any other way will work, unless we want to be guided by fear and corruption, mostly fear, as in monarchies, dictatorships, or terrorists' groups and Sharia law. If you moved here, and became a citizen, you are now part of that Judaeo-Christian culture. It was your choice.

Oh, God, please let freedom still be our cry--the real definition of freedom, as written in our Constitution and Bill of Rights. Please rain down your tender mercies on us so more will be for freedom than against it. Please don't ever let us forget what this country stands for. Let us always remember Thy hand in our creation. In the name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior and Redeemer, I pray. Amen.

Friday, May 1, 2015

Building a Writer's Platform

I have been working furiously to build a writer's platform.
I read on that if editors want to pick up your work, one of the first things they do is "Google" you.

What does a literary agent want to see when they google you?

So, I googled me.
There are a lot of Susan Knights!

If you google "Susan Knight, Author," you'll get me.   s.m.i.l.e.

You can also google "Susan Knight FamilyShare" and get the articles I wrote for DeseretConnect via

Also, if you google "Susan Knight divorce," you'll get me.
So sad that my name has to be had with that "d" word, but it's true.
However, you will find some of my best writing on my divorce blog: I have to warn you, it's not for the fainthearted. But it is for women who have gone through the same thing I did--a divorce due to Adultery, Abuse, and Addiction (porn). I call it the Triple A divorce.

I also have a blog about the first two chapters up of the book I'm trying to pitch now: "Connected in Love."

If you'd like something more lighthearted, try my Mother's Memoirs blog. My daughter, Jewely, gave me one of those fill in the blanks books about my life, so I decided to blog it instead because, well, it's easier to type a lot of stuff :-)

I also have a spiritual blog called "Then Sings My Soul":

You can find all my blogs on

Please visit them and let me know what you think!

Friday, February 13, 2015

50 Shades of Hell

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Photo from "Kristen Lamb's Blog:"
I know I haven't written in this blog in forever. I'm maintaining another blog about divorce due to abuse, adultery and (porn) addiction, and I have shared Kristen's blog there as well. But I thought it important to add this to my more pasteurized blog because it's an important subject for today--well, tomorrow, too. . . any day, really.
Please take heed.
This is one of the best blogs I've read so far about the disgusting movie that is opening on Valentine's Day.
Below are some quotes I loved from this blog post. Okay, so I quoted almost her whole blog post, but this is really good stuff, and so appropriate for my own blog about Abuse, Adultery, Addiction--and how to rise up from the ashes of Abuse, Adultery and (Porn) Addiction.
And I didn't quote everything, of course. You can click on the link above to go and read it for yourself. She is a very clever writer and brings up so many good points about pornography, consent, victimization, and so on. She does not write PC about this subject, which I really like.
Satan's Pandora's Box has been opened by 100 million people who bought the book, 250 million people who viewed the movie trailer, and people who already spent $60 million dollars in tickets before it's even in the theater. This makes me want to cry, really.
My dream is that the women in the theater audiences will get up and walk out. (Is it too much to dream that real men would walk out, too?) It's a dream because women who are addicted to pornography are addicted by reading so-called romance novels. Anti-romance novels should be the moniker.
My fear is seeing these actors and others affiliated with the movie walk up the red carpet and up the stairs to accept an Oscar. Satan's victory complete. I will be throwing up, and not in my mouth.
My soapbox (and my divorce blog) is built upon these sordid subjects and I've been plying Facebook with links to other blogs and articles. Some might say speaking about the book/movie gives it more publicity, but the Edmund Burke quote has been on my mind and I can't be quiet or sit still:
“All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothing.”

Enjoy these thoughts from "Kristen Lamb's Blog" and really think about them.
-Nothing says I love you like predatory emotional manipulation, sociopathy, abuse and non-consensual sex acts.
-And yes, I know there have been other kinky books like this, but 50 Shades sold over 100 million copies and the movie (despite ZERO plot) is expected to gross in excess of $60 million which means I just threw up a little in my mouth this “story” has tipped from fringe to mainstream and that scares me more than a little bit.
-Grey doesn’t choose Ana because she is a confident, assured woman who can emotionally handle this sort of contract, um relationship, um abus…ok, hell I got nothing. A confident woman would have told him where to put his private jet.
-But women have faced thousands of years of not being able to defend themselves against victimization and rape and now we have a cultural phenomenon that is redefining sex and blurring the lines of consent (which are already pretty damn blurry, especially after a drunken frat party).
-It’s Grey’s lines like, “I don’t do romance” that kinda more than piss me off. Women used to be worthy of courtship and eventually a ring and a commitment.
-I remember living across from a young couple and the pretty blonde had been living with this jerk guy for EIGHT years. She wanted to be married and he wanted all the benefits of a marriage without any of the legal obligations . . .
-Characters like Ana have opened a WHOLE ‘notha can of worms when she refuses to tell Grey NO or to stop or even that he’s crossing a line and hurting her because “then she’d lose him” *gags* and tolerates the intolerable.
-How in 50 Shades of HELL is this remotely acceptable?